Let's Talk About Secrets

Let’s talk about secrets, shall we?

Secrets. We all have them. And we all hide them.
We all hide them, because secrets are, well, secret.
We don’t want people to know them.
And hiding the secrets takes a great deal of emotional energy.
The problem is, when it comes to emotional energy...
We only have so much… just a limited supply.

We feel drained. We feel tired. We feel empty.
Just because we’re working so hard to keep our secrets secret.
Just because we’re worrying about who might discover them.
It’s tiring.
I know. I’ve been there, done that, and bought the t-shirt.
(And worn it far too many times…)

Imagine what life would be like if there were no secrets.
Imagine how much more energy we would have if...
We were not so obsessed with secrets.
Imagine what we could do...
If we were not so obsessed with secrets.

Here’s a thought...
“When everything is known...
Nothing is feared…"
What does that mean?

If I have no secrets...
If my life is an open book...
If I have evolved past the pain of the past and the fear of the future….
Then I don’t have to have any fear of people discovering my secrets.
Everything is known!
Nothing is feared!
I’m not afraid of you knowing my secrets….
Because I don’t have any!
I’m free!

Why are we afraid to be an open book?
Why do we want to keep our secrets secret?
There’s many reasons, but one reason is a big reason...
It’s a manifestation of our shame based identity.
You know what I mean...
We’ve been taught to be ashamed of so many things….
Our weight...
Our habits...
Our looks...
Our smells...
(Even though all of those are natural. Except maybe habits…)

We’ll talk more about a shame based identity in the future.
For now, if you’re up for a challenge...
Tell someone just one of your secrets.
Not a big one.
Just a small one.
See how they react.
I’d be willing to bet all the money I have (Which isn’t much, I tell ya…)
That they will be much more accepting than you think they’ll be.
And that shame based identity will start to fall away...
One secret at a time.

Am I suggesting that you pour your life out to strangers?
Tell people you know everything about you?
Of course not.
I AM suggesting that we slowly and steadily begin to open up.
I am suggesting that we tell the shame to get lost!
I am suggesting that we relish the freedom of fighting off the fear.

Are you tired of being tired?
Those secrets weighing you down?
Try it. You might like it.
When everything is known….
Nothing is feared.

Be blessed...
Don